Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Helloo....
Hello....
These days, whenever I see friends or relatives, they will ask me how married life has been. Inevitably as well, before I could answer, they would respond to the question themselves. "Good, eh?" "Relaxed, right?" "Cooking yourselves? Bo pian hor?"
Don't get me mistaken. This blog post is not to grumble about the misery of married life. In fact, it has been good. Okay, it has been good as long as it's about the both of us. Put other people in the equation and that's when it becomes less than perfect. We never realised how getting married actually involved taking care of other people's needs and demands and expectations into play. In fact, the many advice that people warned us about never quite came into being. Instead of spending too much time together and therefore getting bored of each other, we find that we have less time than before. The neverending household chores, demands of work as well as expectations of family members...these take up the bulk of our time.
It may be difficult for some people to imagine, but it is not household chores I dread. My close ones know that I have been washing my own clothes and miscellaneous stuff even before marriage. Now that it has become a daily necessity, I am actually hoping I can be a homemaker in order to finish it all. Our house, located in a central area, actually gets unbelievably dusty if you don't clean it up everyday. I like sweeping away those dust (and my endless hair supply) and wiping the floor with Magiclean (yes, there is that auntie side of me after all...I can blog all about the wonders of Magiclean but we gotta stop!) before mopping it with my lavender-smelling floor wipe. And brainstorming dinner recipes. And did I tell you about my garment steamer? Best thing for my wardrobe since sliced bread (erm then again, maybe that didn't quite go together).
What I dread is, what I am unable to fulfil is...meeting the expectations of people and work. Hubs is leaving on various overseas assignments from this week on. These will see him flying off at least once a week. Then, there are those obligatory visits to in-laws. Dividing our times between those, not much is left over for dating and time together anymore. I don't know how much of this is because of so-called "honeymoon period" of marriage, but well!
I woke up feeling incredibly sad last night. Not very comfy sharing word for word what exactly was bothering me and Hubs, but am trying to hold firmly onto God's promise and believe in His provision, despite the unhappy circumstances.
These days, whenever I see friends or relatives, they will ask me how married life has been. Inevitably as well, before I could answer, they would respond to the question themselves. "Good, eh?" "Relaxed, right?" "Cooking yourselves? Bo pian hor?"
Don't get me mistaken. This blog post is not to grumble about the misery of married life. In fact, it has been good. Okay, it has been good as long as it's about the both of us. Put other people in the equation and that's when it becomes less than perfect. We never realised how getting married actually involved taking care of other people's needs and demands and expectations into play. In fact, the many advice that people warned us about never quite came into being. Instead of spending too much time together and therefore getting bored of each other, we find that we have less time than before. The neverending household chores, demands of work as well as expectations of family members...these take up the bulk of our time.
It may be difficult for some people to imagine, but it is not household chores I dread. My close ones know that I have been washing my own clothes and miscellaneous stuff even before marriage. Now that it has become a daily necessity, I am actually hoping I can be a homemaker in order to finish it all. Our house, located in a central area, actually gets unbelievably dusty if you don't clean it up everyday. I like sweeping away those dust (and my endless hair supply) and wiping the floor with Magiclean (yes, there is that auntie side of me after all...I can blog all about the wonders of Magiclean but we gotta stop!) before mopping it with my lavender-smelling floor wipe. And brainstorming dinner recipes. And did I tell you about my garment steamer? Best thing for my wardrobe since sliced bread (erm then again, maybe that didn't quite go together).
What I dread is, what I am unable to fulfil is...meeting the expectations of people and work. Hubs is leaving on various overseas assignments from this week on. These will see him flying off at least once a week. Then, there are those obligatory visits to in-laws. Dividing our times between those, not much is left over for dating and time together anymore. I don't know how much of this is because of so-called "honeymoon period" of marriage, but well!
I woke up feeling incredibly sad last night. Not very comfy sharing word for word what exactly was bothering me and Hubs, but am trying to hold firmly onto God's promise and believe in His provision, despite the unhappy circumstances.
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