Monday, April 11, 2005
Love and courtship...
I couldn't sleep till late last nite so I got up to snack on something and guess wat!!! Our dear horrible fren the toad was in the kitchen again!!! I am beginning to suspect that either he lives somewhere inside our kitchen or he somehow gets in every night from the space below the kitchen door. Wat is this!!! Why dun he just go back to the garden or backyard where all horrible creatures like him r supposed to be!!! Can somebody teach me some good method to shoo him away like with some special smell that toads hate or something...something that does not end up killing him if possible cos I am soft-hearted after all...
But this morning I woke up without much grumpiness that usually accompanies sleepless nights. I read with much amusement about the guy who tried to declare his liking to a girl in NUS Lt. Haha...I guess some S'porean guys r romantic after all, though the poor guy is not being reciprocated by the gal for now. Hmm...let's muse a bit about love and courtship.
I guess after my past experience with love, I have become more down to earth abt such things. I still dream, of course, that one day a nice Christian guy will come and sweep me off my feet. But I no longer think about just being adored by him and that he must let me have my way all the time. I would like to practise more give-and-take in my next relationship and be much more accomodating to the guy. I dun like it when gals show off how the guy let her have her way all the time, as though parading for everyone to see how attractive she is. Will such a relationship last? But sadly speaking, I have noticed that guys just love gals who r so-called assertive, but in most cases I think that they r just bullies. In other words, the saying that if a gal is not "bad", guys won't like her, seems to be true. Why, why can't the notion of having equal relationship and give and take be in fashion? They r just in name, but I hardly see anyone practising it.
My take is that perhaps the notion that dating must be equivalent to marrying some day is no longer fashionable contributes to this. Most couples date for the sake of momentary attraction and have no view beyond here and now. Of course, I don't mean to say that a couple dating must necessarily marry, but I think most of them should give more thought to the future of their relationship. Don't date anyone whom u r have evn the slightest doubt that u wanna marry him/her. In essence, choose whom u date carefully. And dun have pre-marital sex, becos the physical and emotional baggage may creep in unexpectedly in the future. I have seen enough to convince me of the importance of saving oneself for your future spouse. But most couples r too caught up with here and now. I think relationship really should be carefully considered and does not involve only love, though it is a great part of it.
Having said all that, I think that the guy in the newspaper should have thot over carefully abt his liking for the gal. it's important not to declare ur love too early and in front of so many ppl. Liking or loving can only take place after some time of knowing each other, I feel. That's why my idea of a good relationship is one where I have known the guy as a good fren for some time b4 considering going steady. Knowing that the other party has a cute smile alone just don't cut it. And if this reminds u of Sylvester in any way, I dun happen to like either him or Maia haha.
All rightie...sorry to preach... better get back to my Kratoska essay now. Warmest hugs to those who need it now.
But this morning I woke up without much grumpiness that usually accompanies sleepless nights. I read with much amusement about the guy who tried to declare his liking to a girl in NUS Lt. Haha...I guess some S'porean guys r romantic after all, though the poor guy is not being reciprocated by the gal for now. Hmm...let's muse a bit about love and courtship.
I guess after my past experience with love, I have become more down to earth abt such things. I still dream, of course, that one day a nice Christian guy will come and sweep me off my feet. But I no longer think about just being adored by him and that he must let me have my way all the time. I would like to practise more give-and-take in my next relationship and be much more accomodating to the guy. I dun like it when gals show off how the guy let her have her way all the time, as though parading for everyone to see how attractive she is. Will such a relationship last? But sadly speaking, I have noticed that guys just love gals who r so-called assertive, but in most cases I think that they r just bullies. In other words, the saying that if a gal is not "bad", guys won't like her, seems to be true. Why, why can't the notion of having equal relationship and give and take be in fashion? They r just in name, but I hardly see anyone practising it.
My take is that perhaps the notion that dating must be equivalent to marrying some day is no longer fashionable contributes to this. Most couples date for the sake of momentary attraction and have no view beyond here and now. Of course, I don't mean to say that a couple dating must necessarily marry, but I think most of them should give more thought to the future of their relationship. Don't date anyone whom u r have evn the slightest doubt that u wanna marry him/her. In essence, choose whom u date carefully. And dun have pre-marital sex, becos the physical and emotional baggage may creep in unexpectedly in the future. I have seen enough to convince me of the importance of saving oneself for your future spouse. But most couples r too caught up with here and now. I think relationship really should be carefully considered and does not involve only love, though it is a great part of it.
Having said all that, I think that the guy in the newspaper should have thot over carefully abt his liking for the gal. it's important not to declare ur love too early and in front of so many ppl. Liking or loving can only take place after some time of knowing each other, I feel. That's why my idea of a good relationship is one where I have known the guy as a good fren for some time b4 considering going steady. Knowing that the other party has a cute smile alone just don't cut it. And if this reminds u of Sylvester in any way, I dun happen to like either him or Maia haha.
All rightie...sorry to preach... better get back to my Kratoska essay now. Warmest hugs to those who need it now.
// posted by Jenn @ 5:22 AM 
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the song, Think of Me was jus e right song to reflect my mood...n yeah, ger, i do agree with wad u mentioned abt a different perspective being taken on love ever since our last rs....
Hi this is Weijin is it? Hehe such cute nick u have. thanks gal...but why did Think of me resonate so much w u? :P
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