Wednesday, August 23, 2006
About Social Circles
Read a fren's past blog entries a few days ago and an entry about social circle touched me.
Yeah, I do think that one may have the same friends all her life, but her social circle changes with time. Was thinking about the various people who have come and go in my life, the people whom I was once very close to but have now drifted apart. While there has always been this independent streak in me, I am blessed to have friends to support and affirm me in this journey through life. Friendships can change you, as some of my friends will testify.
I thought back to my JC days when I really wanted to belong to the class, but somehow was never accepted due to differences in mentality. There was another issue affecting it then but I think that is a side point. I agree with an article I just read this morning that said sometimes regaining back a sense of worth is just a matter of leaving a particular social circle and going to another where you are affirmed and supported, because that was what happened when I finally entered university. I had always thought something was wrong with me in JC, but recently, a fren who got close to my JC classmates told me she got the same vibes from them! Hmm won't say they are wrong in their lifestyle and attitudes, but perhaps just different. And not exactly something I admire or aspire to be. I still smile and greet them nicely whenever I meet them by chance, but I no longer get affected upon knowing that they organised outings without inviting me or when I hear some of their remarks etc.
It is nice to have friends who love you just the way you are, love what you love and want to help you grow. And while it often doesn't feel nice at first, it is wonderful to have friends who tell you harsh things just because they know you need it. To me, these are the ways God love me; through my friends.
The sad thing is that, these people may probably leave you at some point in life. Sometimes I wonder if social circles are destined to shrink until you are left with the person you marry and perhaps the family you built by then, as well as your colleagues. Work, dating, marriage or simply, distance. All these may take time and energy away from keeping in touch with friends. Sigh. Perhaps it is true indeed that 有缘则聚，无缘则罢. I just sense changes in the air and it is making me feel apprehensive about going to Singapore. Oh well. The only constancy in life is change. I should follow the advice of someone who quoted a sign in a Socialist work camp: "Work sets you free!" ;-)
Yeah, I do think that one may have the same friends all her life, but her social circle changes with time. Was thinking about the various people who have come and go in my life, the people whom I was once very close to but have now drifted apart. While there has always been this independent streak in me, I am blessed to have friends to support and affirm me in this journey through life. Friendships can change you, as some of my friends will testify.
I thought back to my JC days when I really wanted to belong to the class, but somehow was never accepted due to differences in mentality. There was another issue affecting it then but I think that is a side point. I agree with an article I just read this morning that said sometimes regaining back a sense of worth is just a matter of leaving a particular social circle and going to another where you are affirmed and supported, because that was what happened when I finally entered university. I had always thought something was wrong with me in JC, but recently, a fren who got close to my JC classmates told me she got the same vibes from them! Hmm won't say they are wrong in their lifestyle and attitudes, but perhaps just different. And not exactly something I admire or aspire to be. I still smile and greet them nicely whenever I meet them by chance, but I no longer get affected upon knowing that they organised outings without inviting me or when I hear some of their remarks etc.
It is nice to have friends who love you just the way you are, love what you love and want to help you grow. And while it often doesn't feel nice at first, it is wonderful to have friends who tell you harsh things just because they know you need it. To me, these are the ways God love me; through my friends.
The sad thing is that, these people may probably leave you at some point in life. Sometimes I wonder if social circles are destined to shrink until you are left with the person you marry and perhaps the family you built by then, as well as your colleagues. Work, dating, marriage or simply, distance. All these may take time and energy away from keeping in touch with friends. Sigh. Perhaps it is true indeed that 有缘则聚，无缘则罢. I just sense changes in the air and it is making me feel apprehensive about going to Singapore. Oh well. The only constancy in life is change. I should follow the advice of someone who quoted a sign in a Socialist work camp: "Work sets you free!" ;-)
// posted by Jenn @ 5:15 PM 
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