Wednesday, December 07, 2011
Some Thoughts Post-Marriage
Some thoughts post-marriage:
1) It is harder to get away by acting cute.
Forget the occasional recourse to bimboism. That ring on your third left finger actually attracts more attention that whatever those desperate eyelash-batting for help. I have learnt that it is now more important to let your intelligence and bearing show through; something that will never fail to carry you through life and be respected by everybody you meet.
2) You dress differently.
Unmarried girls tend to dress for attention, not necessarily in the bad sense of the word. I used to dress in a “cuter” and sometimes “sexier” manner pre-marriage. These days, I prefer quality over quantity (although still working very hard on that!) and cuts that are more forgiving towards figural deficiencies. I had also thrown out or sold overtly bold accessories I used to favour in the past, keeping understated pieces I actually wear and which will see me over the next decade if possible. I am also leaning towards more boyish pieces, which describes my personality better than overtly feminine style. Of course, I am never the Herve Leger bandage dress and Louboutin heels- style type, but I don’t think I can do “kawaii” ever again. Or maybe because I am growing old. Haha.
3) You feel more confident about yourself, or are on the way to being so.
This is reflected in the dressing and the way you carry yourself, as noted above.
4) You learn new (survival) skills
I was told I was hopeless in the kitchen, but I’m proud to say: “not anymore!” Although I’m far from being a domestic goddess ala Martha Steward, I can at least manage my stove and oven now. If you have parents who don’t mind loaning you their maids or can afford to pay for part-time cleaner, good for you. But in view that this is not always possible, housekeeping skills are absolutely essential.
1) It is harder to get away by acting cute.
Forget the occasional recourse to bimboism. That ring on your third left finger actually attracts more attention that whatever those desperate eyelash-batting for help. I have learnt that it is now more important to let your intelligence and bearing show through; something that will never fail to carry you through life and be respected by everybody you meet.
2) You dress differently.
Unmarried girls tend to dress for attention, not necessarily in the bad sense of the word. I used to dress in a “cuter” and sometimes “sexier” manner pre-marriage. These days, I prefer quality over quantity (although still working very hard on that!) and cuts that are more forgiving towards figural deficiencies. I had also thrown out or sold overtly bold accessories I used to favour in the past, keeping understated pieces I actually wear and which will see me over the next decade if possible. I am also leaning towards more boyish pieces, which describes my personality better than overtly feminine style. Of course, I am never the Herve Leger bandage dress and Louboutin heels- style type, but I don’t think I can do “kawaii” ever again. Or maybe because I am growing old. Haha.
3) You feel more confident about yourself, or are on the way to being so.
This is reflected in the dressing and the way you carry yourself, as noted above.
4) You learn new (survival) skills
I was told I was hopeless in the kitchen, but I’m proud to say: “not anymore!” Although I’m far from being a domestic goddess ala Martha Steward, I can at least manage my stove and oven now. If you have parents who don’t mind loaning you their maids or can afford to pay for part-time cleaner, good for you. But in view that this is not always possible, housekeeping skills are absolutely essential.
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